It wasn’t that long ago when I was starring down at my newborn baby – for six months straight. I now realize that it could have been postpartum depression, but at the time no one talked about that. No one talked about how hard it was emotionally and physically to have a baby. No one asked why I hadn’t left the house in 6 months, or why I just didn’t seem happy. Oh, did I ever hide it well though. I got really good at it and I don’t even think my hubby noticed.
At this time (20 years ago) I had such a hard time with everything from breastfeeding to wanting to look at myself in a mirror ever again. I decided to put all my energy into loving this baby and finding a way to stay home with this bundle of joy. I started doing some research into all the things that I had a tough time finding. Things like support, groups, organic foods, disposable diapers, child care and more…and before I knew it I had a LOT of resources that I knew could help other parents.
“I found my joy again by helping other parents so they didn’t have to go through what I went through.”
I contacted the local hospitals and asked if they would hand out a pamphlet of resources to other new parents – and they immediately agreed! When the first ‘pamphlet’ was complete it ended up to be a 100 page book!
But how was I going to pay for thousands of books to be printed? I looked to local businesses and organizations to support it and it didn’t take long for the first cheque to come in. I remember the exact moment I opened up the envelope and saw that someone wanted to pay me to do what brought me joy. By this time I had another baby and another reason to keep moving forward.
Our family story is probably similar to yours, with many ups and downs. Heartache, loss, separation and reunification, mental health, grief, pain, resentment, anxiety, depression…
“But this is not my full story – it is part of my journey, but not where I am today.”
Today, after making it through many storms, we realized we had a lot to give and we wanted to do this by helping another family. We became foster parents (and soon to be adoptive parents of twin teenage boys) and to our list of ups and downs, we added: joy, love, kindness, acceptance, forgiveness, strength, and so much laughter.
Our love for each other has lifted us up and pulled us through many storms…so many that we can relate to others who have gone through what we have gone through.
Connecting with parents about issues that really matter is what I love! My family is my WHY, and my strength comes from my readers, my supporters, my sisters, my extended family, my community, and most of all from the love and support of a great man, my hubby who is my biggest supporter and the brightest light in my life.
In 2018 we made a bold decision to move all our resources online. We created the ParentGuide Magazine and most recently the ParentTeens Magazine so that we can continue the conversation about parenting and talk about modern issues that matter to modern families.
A lot of what mattered 20 years ago still matters today, but we are more open and accepting of what used to be shushed in a crowd. Join us as we dive deep into topics that really matter in both of these quarterly online magazines.
In 2019 we launched a new website that supports parents of teens. If you have a teen, or know someone with a teen, send them to The Club at: https://parentteens.club/ This site is home to some of the best parenting coaches, counsellors, and experts in the world that support parents of teens. I am in love with this community as I get to watch these experts transform families daily! They are changing lives people! Check it out…so much goodness on this site!
But most of all, don’t forget that taking care of yourself and your family will always come first. I wonder what would have happened 20 years ago if someone took my hand and told me they had been through the same thing and there is hope…because there is always HOPE!
Click here to go to our ParentGuide site (for parents of kids 0-12 years old)
Click here to go to our ParentTeens site (for parents of teens)